What should you do when feeling down in the dumps, stressed or you find yourself in a negative sate?

Simple, just ask yourself a better question. It might sound crazy but you would be amazed by just how effective this is in dealing with the curve balls that life sometimes throws your way. Now before we get into these questions lets first look into when questions should be asked.

If you feel sad, mad, stressed or depressed this is actually ok. You are allowed to experience those feelings, they are normal but they usually alert you that something needs to change and you have to do something! Just accepting how you are feeling long term will likely get you nowhere.

What we want is to feel empowered by our emotions and not a victim of them. When you fall in to a negative state it has an impact on your central nervous system and our bodies. Prolonged, un-managed negative emotions actually affect your health. It is well known and well documented what stress does to your body, we know for example that stress lowers your immune system, resulting in you are more likely to get coughs and colds, cause irritable bowel syndrome flare up, aggravate skin conditions along with many other health implications. That is only the tip of the ice-berg.

Now how can asking better questions help with escaping the tight grip of these negative emotions? I’m not talking about asking questions such as; Why does it always happen to me? Why do things never work out? Why do men always cheat on me? Now these questions are rubbish!! They are all negative! I’m talking about questions that really get to you thinking. Ones that get you to look outside of the emotional state you are currently experiencing. Questions to help you find the path forward.

Next time you feel like your emotions are taking hold of you, try asking yourself some of these:

How do I want to feel?

What one thing can I do right now that will make me feel the way I want to feel?

What positive things can I take from this that will move me forward?

What can I do to improve the situation?

What is the result I want?

Who do I need to become to attract the right person or reach my goal?

Now there are obviously many more questions that you can ask yourself, but the point is that if you start asking questions you can take control of your emotions. There are always going to be events in life you cannot control, but the one thing you can control is how you deal with these events and the emotions that come with them.

The better you get at asking yourself questions the more you will learn and the faster you can move forward onto the next adventure that life brings.

Now get out there and start asking some better questions!!

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